Potency isn’t just a man’s issue. When your partner’s erection is absent you feel the loss as much as your partner. One of the first ways you may react to your lover’s trouble with erections is to doubt yourself and your relationship.
You might feel lonely, isolated and deprived of much-wanted physical and emotional attention. You might be frightened about sharing your problem even with your closest friends. Perhaps your partner has told you not to tell anyone—even your family doctor—about his erection difficulties. Perhaps the subject upsets him so much that he won’t even let you discuss your concerns with him.
You might begin to believe that your only choice is to ignore the problem. You might cling to the hope that if you bury your head in the sand everything will miraculously resolve itself.
But deep inside you know the problem will probably only continue—and might worsen.
These feelings are common. Many women whose partners have erection problems feel inadequate and sometimes blame themselves. And many women feel responsible for the solution. Some women cling to the romantic notion that love conquers all. But while love can be powerful, it can’t unclog blocked blood vessels, diagnose illnesses or remove all stress and pressure in life.
How can you help yourself and your partner? How can you cope with your own feelings while still being a support system for your husband?
There aren’t any simple solutions; what works for one woman might not work for you. But there are some basics to making the most of a tough situation. And there are ways to make it better.
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